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Originally posted by BuzzLY BuzzLY wrote:

Originally posted by D.H.K. D.H.K. wrote:

Originally posted by BuzzLY BuzzLY wrote:

I understand.
One in nine women have been raped. That means one in nine men are rapists. I read what people here post and its sick.
Sorry to bother


Wow.  Do you always assume that crime is done on a 1:1 basis?  
- Ever think that rapists are repeat offenders on other people?  
- Ever think that women could be a multiple victim of rape from different men?


Yes no and no
You might be right and might not.
Women don't care about that. All I see is that if I have nine men by me one is probably a rapist
The way you guys talk on here. A rapist pig as President. It's safer to be a rich white rapist in college than a black family man.
Scooby hints she was stalked and raped and you guys say get over it and get a gun and ask about her breasts and rear end and whether shes hot
Whats that about? You guys dont respect women then get mad when scooby says something


Now I get it. Do you have a vagina hat hanging next to the door in your efficiency in Soho? And I never asked about ass and titties, just speculated because, you know, all the rapey-stalky talk. If you buy the line that 1 in 9 men are rapists, you're a lost cause.
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote Guests Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jun/24/2017 at 2:13pm
I will also agree that if you feel threatened, then one of the best things you can do to take charge of your fear... is to get a concealed carry permit and a gun, and learn how to use it.

This may be a bit facetious, but there's some truth in it:



Edited by D.H.K. - Jun/24/2017 at 2:14pm
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My pastors daughter gave me the book thirteen reasons why. Shes the only person who knows what happened to me in my life. The girl in the book is Hanna and she is raped. But thats not why she killed herself. It was all the little things people said and did that were a joke or that didnt respect her. Hannahs school adviser said to forget it happened since she didn't want to name the boy. Forget it happened. Just forget it. Like you can forget having your soul ripped apart.

My friend let me cry for hours. Thats what I needed then not a gun or karate just someone to listen. I never said it then but I really want d to die. Even four years later I still feel that hurt like it would be better to die. A gun wont fix that or make me trust a guy enough to go out

That meme is not funny its sad
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I don't understand how you can function in this industry with this kind of fear and/or trust issues.  I can only guess that you might only work with single or divorced women?  (There's a big demand in that niche.)  You only have a few posts, so I can't guess your business model or anything about what you do in the industry, but I can generally guarantee you that these fears and/or trust issues... will affect your performance in this business, until you find a way for you to control it, rather than let these fears control you.

Edit:  I see now that you're just new to the industry.  Well, this is an item that you won't learn from your firm if you're going to be in a prospecting role of any kind.  If you can't find a way around this, I would suggest a support role, or another industry in general.


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I work for my dad he's a cfp. He wants me to take over later on. Right now I answer phones and do mailings.
I donT like it at all but he said I'll never worry about money. I'm in school for psychology and would rather be a counselor
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I can see that being more meaningful for you where you can empower (and heal) yourself and others through that kind of work.

While there is an element of psychology in working with people with their money, you have to LOVE being in this business.  If you don't love what you do, you won't do nearly as well as someone who can really get into it.  

You can 'help your dad with the phones', but you need to tell him how you really feel and go into something where you really see yourself being successful.  The money won't come to (or stay with) someone who doesn't love what they do.


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My dad is teaching me to control how people see me if I want to make it when he retired
I always wear a mask I have to because I hate men so much. Not because all are bad but because you don't think how women see your words and how they feel what you say. Your not trying to be a rapist pig or sound like you condone it or anything but many things you guys say on here echo in our hearts and really hurt
If you said that kind of stuff to me that was said to scoot even a year ago I'd lock myself in a bathroom and want to cut myself. That would hurt less than how I feel with those words.
I think my dad is a sociopath because I can tell he fakes empathy with his customers I don't want to ever need to fake how I feel
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Let me emphatically say this:  this business and industry is NOT for you.  This business takes a thick skin for success as a planner.

Given how you feel about your dad, you just need to quit - YESTERDAY.  Just don't show up and let what happens happens.

However, I doubt you'll do it... because he is a man, and you said he's a sociopath.  And you're too full of fear to shake up the status quo.

The sooner you take charge of your own life, the sooner you can change your life.  Right now, you are REACTING to everything - even this little paragraph of text.  That's no way to live.  You need to find YOUR WAY of being PROACTIVE in your life towards what YOU want.

Here's the first bit of truth I want you to learn:  this forum, or anyone else, is NOT responsible for how you REACT to them.  Your reaction is your responsibility.  In fact, look at the word 'responsible'.  You are able to control your response.  That's an evolved way of looking at your emotional reactions to things.  Don't change the world.  Change YOUR world... and everything else will change for you.

I'd read the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey and learn some principles on how to master control over yourself and develop influence in others.

Here's a blog entry to get you started:


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I agree and I probably will quit. But he's giving me $13 an hour for the summer
I don't tell people how I feel or blame them for it but it doesn't change how what they say makes me feel but your right I am responsible for how I respond. I tried talking here instead of getting angry like scooby did. Maybe some of you will understand
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Keep in mind none of us here were condoning rape and the word "rape" seems like a huge leap given the context. It's men being men and by that I mean they were talking about the elephant in the room- this business is different if you're a woman. That's reality. This is what happens when men can comment and be anonymous and this won't be popular with you two, but scooby is overreacting and you're both bringing baggage from before to a place where it has no place. Sorry if that makes me a sexist pig
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Jesus, I want to cut myself after reading this page.
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Buzzly- I do sympathize with you but the quicker you realize the problem is with one guy and not EVERY guy, the quicker you'll be over this
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Words have meaning and can change lives or end them even in here. Words start and end wars. Some of you got divorced cause of words
Our bodies healed already. I volunteer at my college for a sex assault program. The words these girls here after the rape is worse than the rape and some kill themselves for it. One girl did because of what her dad said
Words are expensive. You guys are in money business pretend every word you write on here costs you something. You write a check from your soul for every word you say or write. Will that check bounce when a girl cashes it in her soul?
I don't think any of you are rapists at least I hope not. But what you say can hurt far worse than the act itself. Always remember that
Sorry to bother I can see I don't belong here
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It's summer where I am at but snowing on AH! Waxing up the skis now. Fresh sledding on these monster snowflakes.
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I love my dad and brother. But Id never tell them what happened

I want all of you to look at your wives and daughters. If nine of you do that odds are one of your wives or daughters have been raped. I want you to think and wonder whether they'd ever tell you out of fear you cant possibly ever understand

So im a snowflake. Winter is coming unlike any you can imagine and I promise those of you that are sexist pigs will freeze to death
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I'd tell my daughter to report what happened as close to the time that it happened.  Get a police report and then you can prosecute a case so it might not happen to anybody else.

My daughter is 13 going on 17... and yeah, I exercise a bit of tough love on her.
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You're right, Game of Thrones is like 3 weeks away!
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (1) Thanks(1)   Quote Guests Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jun/24/2017 at 5:26pm
Bet you guys miss a good active vs passive debate about now, don't you? 😂
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Theres no debate. You pay commissions or fees with passive so your always behind the index and that sucks
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Originally posted by BuzzLY BuzzLY wrote:

Theres no debate. You pay commissions or fees with passive so your always behind the index and that sucks

Oops!
On another note since your dad is already in the business, you really should try this business. Those claiming you will definitely fail forget that most people just leave their account as is unless something terrible happens.
How old is your dad?

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